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PARSHAS CHAYEI SARAH - פרשת חיי שרה

"ואבא היום אל העין" - "And I came today to the well" (Genesis 24:42)

In the chapters in concerning shidduchim (matchmaking for marriage) that are mentioned in the Torah, when Eliezer, the servant of Abraham, was sent by his master to find a wife for his son, our father Isaac, it says that on his journey to Aram Naharaim that the way was miraculously shortened for him, as it says "and I came today to the well" (Genesis 24:42), which Rashi explains that Eliezer meant, "I left today and I arrived today", from here we see that the journey was miraculously shortened for him. It would seem difficult for us to understand, for once he saw this great miracle was done for him, he should have known immediately that God will make sure that he will succeed in his endeavors, so why did he have to make a sign for himself, that the maiden would say "you should drink, and your camels as well, and this is proof for your servant", to prove that he was successful (Genesis 24:14)? The answer is that when someone is looking for a marriage partner, he has to make sure that the potential match is a kind, giving, and charitable person in interpersonal matters. This is what I heard in the name of the Holy Rebbe Aaron from Belz, zy"a, who said that one of the things a person must look for in a marriage match is the attribute of kindness, and that the potential match comes from a good and kind family, as we saw by the early tzaddikim (righteous people). Therefore, the Torah teaches us a tremendous foundation, that even though Eliezer saw that his trip was miraculously made quicker, he was not impressed by this miracle. He wanted to see with his own eyes that the girl had the attribute of kindness, which was known to be found in the house of Abraham, who was known as the "man of kindness". Only after he saw all of the kindness that she did with him was he convinced that she was truly worthy to be taken as a wife for Isaac, "and this is proof for your servant" (ibid.).

(Sefer Orchos Dovid Teachings of the previous Biala Rebbe, p. 218)

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